10 October 2012
06 October 2012
I'm Done!
Okay...I really don't understand something about guys. This is not the first time this has happened. The first time, I could take it as a fluke. This isn't even the second time. This is the third time now...all from online dating sites.
Height is something that is easy to tell right away. You can tell whether someone is shorter or taller than you. You might not be able to tell the difference between 6'5" and 6'4", but you know that they're taller than you then.
So why must guys lie about their height online? You don't say to a girl who is 5'10" that you're 5'11" many times, then set up a date, meet her, and turn out to be 5'8" on a good day. Especially when that girl told you multiple times that her one physical requirement for a guy be that he's taller than her. Is this similar to girls lying about their weight?
Do I ask for too much? Am I being too picky? Really...good hygiene and taller than me...that's all I need to see. Obviously the personality matters most, but those two requirements in the looks department are reasonable I think. Aren't they? And obviously, if you lie about your height which is something I can tell really fast, what personality do you have? What else have you lied about to me in our getting to know you before deciding on meeting up for a date?
And it makes me wonder where things are going if people are so quick and find it so easy to lie about blatant and obvious things. How can you say that you're looking for a long term relationship when you're going to lie to the girl you think might potentially participate in said relationship with you? Honesty is a big deal...and I'm just not finding it.
I'm done with online dating sites. Plenty of Fish, Match, whatever...it's too easy to lie, bend the truth, whatever you want to call it. I would rather be single than settle. After all, I've waited this long...what's a little longer if needed?
(All said and done, it was a bad blind date tonight. There was much more wrong than just the lying about the height thing. This peppy, bubbly, bouncy, smiley girl can not go on with someone who has no true beliefs system other than being an atheist, never went to a school dance or event, and reads an average of two books a year only filling the rest of his time with video games. No offense to those out there like that...but it's just not what I'm looking for.)
Height is something that is easy to tell right away. You can tell whether someone is shorter or taller than you. You might not be able to tell the difference between 6'5" and 6'4", but you know that they're taller than you then.
So why must guys lie about their height online? You don't say to a girl who is 5'10" that you're 5'11" many times, then set up a date, meet her, and turn out to be 5'8" on a good day. Especially when that girl told you multiple times that her one physical requirement for a guy be that he's taller than her. Is this similar to girls lying about their weight?
Do I ask for too much? Am I being too picky? Really...good hygiene and taller than me...that's all I need to see. Obviously the personality matters most, but those two requirements in the looks department are reasonable I think. Aren't they? And obviously, if you lie about your height which is something I can tell really fast, what personality do you have? What else have you lied about to me in our getting to know you before deciding on meeting up for a date?
And it makes me wonder where things are going if people are so quick and find it so easy to lie about blatant and obvious things. How can you say that you're looking for a long term relationship when you're going to lie to the girl you think might potentially participate in said relationship with you? Honesty is a big deal...and I'm just not finding it.
I'm done with online dating sites. Plenty of Fish, Match, whatever...it's too easy to lie, bend the truth, whatever you want to call it. I would rather be single than settle. After all, I've waited this long...what's a little longer if needed?
(All said and done, it was a bad blind date tonight. There was much more wrong than just the lying about the height thing. This peppy, bubbly, bouncy, smiley girl can not go on with someone who has no true beliefs system other than being an atheist, never went to a school dance or event, and reads an average of two books a year only filling the rest of his time with video games. No offense to those out there like that...but it's just not what I'm looking for.)
Six Question Saturday: Colors of the Rainbow
1. What is your favorite color? I honestly don't have one...I like red, yellow, and green the best though.
2. What colors do you like to decorate with? My room is turquoise and lime green. I also like the color combination of deep red and walnut brown.
3. Is there a color that you absolutely hate? I'm not really a fan of orange too much...I don't think it does much for many people.
4. Which colors look best on you? Red...pasty pale skin and dark hair and eyes. My friend calls me Snow White whenever she sees me in it.
5. Which colors do you wear most often? Yellow probably...closely followed by blue I think.
6. Which color combination do you think is the worst one out there? Hmm...I don't care for neon color combinations. One neon color is okay, but much more than that is too much for my eyes.
Simple and short today. This girl has a blind date to get ready for!
29 September 2012
Books...First Love
Okay, so I'm taking an idea that the lovely and wonderful Aleisha has been doing for quite a while. But I'm going to do it on Saturdays. And let's make it six...so Six Question Saturdays. Ta da!
Books are my favorite things in the world. Always have been, always will be. (Well maybe that will change later, but they're still going to be at the top!) I just love how they can take you away from everything, or help you realize more about yourself, or just be a comfort. They're my true love. So here we go...
1. What’s your favorite book you’ve had read to you? I sort of mean read aloud in person, as opposed to read aloud on a recording, but answer it however you want.
I loved having the Arthur books read to me when I was little. You know...the little aardvark and his annoying sister and all that good stuff? I have a few books signed by Marc Brown (the author/illustrator) from when he came to my elementary school. He even included the name of our school hidden in one of the drawings for one of the books. He read to us one of them, sadly I don't remember the title, but having the author of a favorite series of books when you're little read to you is the best!
2.What book (or series of books) would you like to see turned into a film?
Hmmm....most of them already have been! "A Summer in Europe" by Marilyn Brant would be pretty awesome to make into a film. The "Vampire Academy" books would be pretty good too, but I'd fear they'd become too much like the "Twilight" movies and be ruined...
3. We often complain about movies not being as good as the books upon which they are based, but what’s a movie that was as good as (or better than) its book?
"The Help" as a movie is much much MUCH better than the book. I could get through the movie...the book (sorry if I offend anyone, or maybe I'm not) I just couldn't get past the first sixty pages. I'm a fast reader, so when it takes me two weeks to read 60 pages, I know there's a problem. Just couldn't get into it at all! (I even tried reading it again after seeing the movie, and well...it didn't make a single bit of difference.)
Another is a TV miniseries that BBC made for "The Pillars of the Earth" by Ken Follett. I attempted reading the book in 2006, but it was so massive with so many characters and plot lines that I just couldn't keep it all straight. I set it aside, and years later saw the miniseries on TV (Matthew Macfadyen strikes again! Seriously, I could watch anything with that man in it and love it!) It all made sense then, so I read the book finally in two weeks and loved it! The miniseries is just as great too, so I recommend both.
4. Songs often take us back to specific times in our lives, or remind us of specific people. What book does that for you, and what’s the explanation?
"The Chronicles of Narnia" series...it just wraps me into this little cocoon while I read it and reminds me of how simple and innocent everything can be if we allow it. It's magic in every sense with every word.
5. What book do you know well enough to quote from once in a while?
Anything from the "Harry Potter" series or "Pride and Prejudice"...though P&P might be more so from the movie that I watch every time I'm sad or depressed and need a pick-me-up, so I have it memorized word for word (ahhh Matthew Macfadyen!) HP has so many great lines throughout as well that can be applied to so much, and my students love when I start throwing them around.
6. What is your all-time favorite book? (Yes, you have to choose one...imagine if there were a fire in your house and you could only save one book. Which would it be?)
So tough! Thank goodness I have all of "The Chronicles of Narnia" in one big huge volume. :-)
Books are my favorite things in the world. Always have been, always will be. (Well maybe that will change later, but they're still going to be at the top!) I just love how they can take you away from everything, or help you realize more about yourself, or just be a comfort. They're my true love. So here we go...
1. What’s your favorite book you’ve had read to you? I sort of mean read aloud in person, as opposed to read aloud on a recording, but answer it however you want.
I loved having the Arthur books read to me when I was little. You know...the little aardvark and his annoying sister and all that good stuff? I have a few books signed by Marc Brown (the author/illustrator) from when he came to my elementary school. He even included the name of our school hidden in one of the drawings for one of the books. He read to us one of them, sadly I don't remember the title, but having the author of a favorite series of books when you're little read to you is the best!
2.What book (or series of books) would you like to see turned into a film?
Hmmm....most of them already have been! "A Summer in Europe" by Marilyn Brant would be pretty awesome to make into a film. The "Vampire Academy" books would be pretty good too, but I'd fear they'd become too much like the "Twilight" movies and be ruined...
3. We often complain about movies not being as good as the books upon which they are based, but what’s a movie that was as good as (or better than) its book?
"The Help" as a movie is much much MUCH better than the book. I could get through the movie...the book (sorry if I offend anyone, or maybe I'm not) I just couldn't get past the first sixty pages. I'm a fast reader, so when it takes me two weeks to read 60 pages, I know there's a problem. Just couldn't get into it at all! (I even tried reading it again after seeing the movie, and well...it didn't make a single bit of difference.)
Another is a TV miniseries that BBC made for "The Pillars of the Earth" by Ken Follett. I attempted reading the book in 2006, but it was so massive with so many characters and plot lines that I just couldn't keep it all straight. I set it aside, and years later saw the miniseries on TV (Matthew Macfadyen strikes again! Seriously, I could watch anything with that man in it and love it!) It all made sense then, so I read the book finally in two weeks and loved it! The miniseries is just as great too, so I recommend both.
4. Songs often take us back to specific times in our lives, or remind us of specific people. What book does that for you, and what’s the explanation?
"The Chronicles of Narnia" series...it just wraps me into this little cocoon while I read it and reminds me of how simple and innocent everything can be if we allow it. It's magic in every sense with every word.
5. What book do you know well enough to quote from once in a while?
Anything from the "Harry Potter" series or "Pride and Prejudice"...though P&P might be more so from the movie that I watch every time I'm sad or depressed and need a pick-me-up, so I have it memorized word for word (ahhh Matthew Macfadyen!) HP has so many great lines throughout as well that can be applied to so much, and my students love when I start throwing them around.
6. What is your all-time favorite book? (Yes, you have to choose one...imagine if there were a fire in your house and you could only save one book. Which would it be?)
So tough! Thank goodness I have all of "The Chronicles of Narnia" in one big huge volume. :-)
02 May 2012
A New Decade
I'm writing this in my last minutes of my twenties. Interesting how you think you'll be at a certain point in your life, and you end up in a completely different area.
Ten years ago, I was halfway through my undergraduate degree in biology with pre-medicine. I was going to become a doctor and there was no stopping me. I was in a long-term relationship with a nice guy...it just wasn't meant to work out for various reasons. My parents had just gotten divorced two years earlier, and things were rough.
Five years ago, I had just gotten back from a year in New York City. A year that taught me so much about myself and what I can and can't handle. I never thought I'd miss Buffalo, but I did. I was in another long-term relationship that was never meant to work, but I kept pushing for it to. I also realized that hmm...maybe teaching is the thing? I dropped my view that medicine was the only possible career for me. I took a couple months off of school and jumped into my first education courses...and I'll never look back.
Two years ago, I went back in time, starting a new teaching job at my alma mater high school. Again, I learned a lot about myself and how I interact with other people. I pushed my limits and knowledge. I've succeeded. I've come home exhausted, I've graded to the wee hours of the morning, I juggled getting my Masters degree while working full time, I earned a 4.0 GPA while helping my students pass the NYS Regents exam. And you know what? I absolutely love it!
On May 2nd at 1:49am, I turn 30 years old. It's a new decade. Who knows where the next ten years will take me. Of course, I can have a plan, but if anything over the past ten years, I've learned that these plans rarely ever turn out how you think they should. So here's what I say for my thirties...I'm going to go with it. Wherever the road may take me, I'll go.
One thing that I do know? I'm getting rid of the junk. I've learned what I deserve over the past ten years...in relationships and friendships, with work, with life in general.
So bring it on. The clock just struck midnight. Happy birthday!
Ten years ago, I was halfway through my undergraduate degree in biology with pre-medicine. I was going to become a doctor and there was no stopping me. I was in a long-term relationship with a nice guy...it just wasn't meant to work out for various reasons. My parents had just gotten divorced two years earlier, and things were rough.
Five years ago, I had just gotten back from a year in New York City. A year that taught me so much about myself and what I can and can't handle. I never thought I'd miss Buffalo, but I did. I was in another long-term relationship that was never meant to work, but I kept pushing for it to. I also realized that hmm...maybe teaching is the thing? I dropped my view that medicine was the only possible career for me. I took a couple months off of school and jumped into my first education courses...and I'll never look back.
Two years ago, I went back in time, starting a new teaching job at my alma mater high school. Again, I learned a lot about myself and how I interact with other people. I pushed my limits and knowledge. I've succeeded. I've come home exhausted, I've graded to the wee hours of the morning, I juggled getting my Masters degree while working full time, I earned a 4.0 GPA while helping my students pass the NYS Regents exam. And you know what? I absolutely love it!
On May 2nd at 1:49am, I turn 30 years old. It's a new decade. Who knows where the next ten years will take me. Of course, I can have a plan, but if anything over the past ten years, I've learned that these plans rarely ever turn out how you think they should. So here's what I say for my thirties...I'm going to go with it. Wherever the road may take me, I'll go.
One thing that I do know? I'm getting rid of the junk. I've learned what I deserve over the past ten years...in relationships and friendships, with work, with life in general.
So bring it on. The clock just struck midnight. Happy birthday!
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