I want to say a few things:
1. I like myself. Yes, I can even venture to say that I love myself. I've heard so many times "you can't expect someone to love you unless you love yourself first," and let me tell you…I love myself. I'm happy with the person that I've become in practically every way. Sure, I could use improvement, but especially in the major areas, I think I'm pretty awesome. Maybe I should just find a way to marry myself, and we could avoid this whole posting, but anyway…
2. WTF do men want? You ask them this question, and they give you a nice little listing: funny, sweet, caring, honest, loyal, intelligent, driven, confident, yadda yadda yadda. Okay, no problem. I am those things. Remember, I like/love myself and think I'm pretty awesome. Then POOF! Guy doesn't want those things anymore it seems! Instead, he wants a girl who is bitchy 90% of the time and complains the other 10%. Wait…what?
3. I don't understand why people say one thing and do something completely opposite. If you say you're going to do something, here's a novel idea…DO IT! If you say you're going to call, then call. If you say you can't wait to meet me, then meet me already. Really, it's not entirely difficult…unless you want to make it so, in which case, sorry but not sorry, you're out.
4. Here's the newest one. Guy sends me a message on a paid dating site (can't tell me I'm not trying here!) We start chatting via text, and he's all gung-ho about meeting. We set a date up…both of us are excited. Few days before this set-up date, I get the text "so can you do a different day?" Jokingly I ask "what, prettier and better girl lined up for that day instead?" Turns out, why yes…another girl is coming to his house for the night for their first date. Well how lovely for you, dude!
4. I hate my mom telling me that my friends are having trouble with this too. Especially when said friends are 4-6 years younger than me. Six years ago, I wasn't feeling this way. I wasn't even at four years ago. And forgive me for sounding a bit mean, but I don't care about their "woe to me, my boyfriend bought me daisies when I really like lilies, maybe he's not the one?" The dude bought you flowers, he was thinking about you when he did it, be happy!
Let's talk about this all here, okay?
I don't think that a relationship is the be-all-end-all of the universe. Nor is being in one, unless it is with yourself. Because yes, you do need to like yourself in order to be a relatively functional human being I think. But…I'm going to be completely 100% honest here…I'm getting lonely. There, it's out in the open. Whew! I've officially reached the point where I want a family. Husband, kids, dog, maybe not a white picket fence because they're kinda silly looking, but a house none the less. This took a while to fully reach this point, but I'm there now.
While I'm still not willing to settle for someone who can just throw that my way (I'm not desperate!), I'm looking. I've been patient. I mean…I'm 32 and only have the dog so far (though he is a pretty awesome dog)…that's being patient I think. I pray every night for God to send the right one for me. He's gotta be out there somewhere, living and breathing at this very moment, maybe wishing and praying for me too…so where is he?! Why is it taking so long for us to meet up finally?
So…for the guy who (hopefully) eventually finally fills this void and emptiness that is slowing growing in my heart, thank you. You rode in on a tortoise instead of a great white stallion, but thank you. I'm sorry it took so long for me to get here too.
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13 September 2014
31 December 2013
New Year's Eve 2013 into 2014
This has become a bit of a tradition, to fill out a survey of sorts that reflects on the previous year. For this year, something slightly different, but still just as good.
TEN of this year’s movies you liked
These can be movies that weren’t necessarily released this year, but movies that you discovered and saw for the first time this year and fell in love with.
1. Silver Linings Playbook
2. American Hustle
3. Hunger Games: Catching Fire
4. Thor (more so the second one than the first though)
5. The Hangover Part 3 (yeah, not that great, but good to see the whole series go full circle and what not)
6. Pitch Perfect
7. The Help (the movie was so much better than the book in this case)
8. Psycho (yup, finally saw the original…holy crap!)
9. The Fighter (finally saw this one too three years after it came out, and the more I think about it, the more it grows on me)
10. The Avengers
NINE things you are thankful for this year
Things, people, places, anything that you’re thankful for, list them. And if you want to say why, go right ahead.
1. My mom: She's become so much more than just a mother to me as I've gotten older. We've always had that good bond where we're friends as well as mother-daughter, but when something goes wrong, she's the one that I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I can go to for help, reassurance, or just a hug.
2. My Friends: They may come and go, they may drop out for a bit and then return, or they may be there every single day, but the true ones are great and I couldn't ask for a better bunch of them.
3. My Dog: Yes, he's my best friend. Taurus cracks me up every day, he's a great listener, and he's the best snuggling buddy a girl could ask for.
4. My Grandma: She drives me crazy sometimes, but she's more like a sister to me than an actual grandma. (This includes all of the sister fighting that occurs with siblings over stupid stuff too.)
5. My Books: They are like a second home to me. (Well, 2nd all the way through 2000th home if you really want to get technical since they all take you to different places.)
6. My Career: Teaching is not only what I do, but it's who I am. I'm thankful that I was able to find a job again this school year (though it will be done at the end of January sadly) so that I could continue to do what I love.
7. My Job: Starting to work at UNYTS in February was a blessing, not only because it gives me time to read (yay!) but it also makes me feel good that it's such a wonderful organization to work for that is making such a difference (Donate Life!)
8. My Fitness Pal: I've made some amazing friends on there (Agent 13!) who are there to call me out when I eat what I shouldn't or if I say that I'm going to go to the gym and don't. This past year, I balanced out at having lost 12 pounds, which isn't a lot, but that's a pound a month, and it's better than having gone up that much. MFP has helped immensely with that!
9. Gluten Free Products: There are many, and it would be silly to thank them all, but I'm thankful for all of them. It makes living this way much more tolerable.
EIGHT things you learned this year
Can be anything from a simple, interesting fact to a gigantic life lesson.
1. Rudolph's red nose is caused by a parasite. (Yes, I'm the queen of useless science facts!)
2. We may be living inside of a black hole and not even realize it. Like what if the whole universe was inside of a black hole, and another universe was studying that black hole trying to find out what it was and everything. (Thank you Penn State!)
3. I can hike. I may hurt myself and end up with bruises and bone contusions that you can still see on my legs, but dammit, I can hike!
4. Barnes and Noble is my personal heaven.
5. I finally gave in to Twitter and hate it. Then I started up a Tumblr and am hopelessly addicted.
6. I am really good at cooking when I put my mind to it. Give me a recipe once, and I'll make it my own, and it will be delicious!
7. There's always a silver lining. You might not know what it is right away, but just wait for the clouds to clear and you'll see it.
8. Being honest with yourself is even more important than being honest to those around you.
SEVEN best memories/moments
Things that, no matter whenever they happened this year, you could never forget. Not this year. Not ever. These are the moments that mattered.
1. Penn State Black Hole Conference
2. Fossil Giveaway in Ithaca at the Paleontological Institute
3. Hunger Games Day at Science Camp (nothing could have gone better that day, it was a dream!)
4. The phone call from the principal at a school that I interviewed at this summer. I didn't get the job, but her phone call made that okay and was the push I needed to stick with this.
5. Being called "Elmo" by one of my students…because "everyone likes Elmo, and everyone likes you too."
6. Hiking along a stream/creek outside of Albany carrying a giant boulder that had a ton of garnets in it (so that I could give it to my mom since garnet is her birthstone and I was so proud that I found it) and just appreciating how beautiful and peaceful it was and that I was able to do it, especially after how "wonderful" my knee was at the start of the year.
7. Gluten Free Expo in Toronto with Mom
SIX accomplishments
Everyone has at least six accomplishments. They don’t have to be big accomplishments. Just what you think are accomplishments, don’t be shy about it.
1. I lost 12 pounds.
2. I got my knee back in working order.
3. I got accepted to participate in a Penn State Astrophysics Conference/Workshop, which about 200 people apply for each year, and only 20 are accepted.
4. All of my ESL students passed their Regents Biology exam that I prepped with for months.
5. I survived another summer of science camp, while interviewing for what seemed like a million teaching jobs, taking two geology courses (4.0 GPA still!), and working at UNYTS part time.
6. I am getting better, and that’s probably my biggest accomplishment this year.
FIVE things you regret
Everyone has regrets. Here’s your chance to admit to them and hopefully vow not to repeat them in the next year.
1. Allowing myself to be fooled by some people, including myself.
2. Not telling people what’s on my mind when I needed to.
3. Slacking off with taking the Earth Science CST, so now it will be a bit harder.
4. Thoughts of giving up and feeling trapped. While I don't really regret them, because they would have happened anyway, I regret letting them take over my life for so long.
5. Not following my budget as well as I should have the past couple months, so now I'm starting to go into panic mode.
FOUR favorites this year
Pick any four favorites you want. Food you discovered. Book you read. Movie you watched. TV show you started watching. Video game you played. Class you took. Vacation you went on. Song you heard. Highlighter brand. Anything you feel like should be a favorite, include it.
1. Movie: Silver Linings Playbook
2. Book: Forgive Me, Leonard Peacock
3. Book Series: The Mortal Instruments
4. Food I Discovered: Bone Marrow outside of Albany…OMG absolutely amazing, so much so that it should be a sin!
THREE plans for next year
Everyone’s got plans for the next year. These three should be your most important plans…the ones that mean the most to you.
1. Finish up my Earth Science teaching certification and get my professional teaching certification finished up (everything is done for it, I just need to get everything in order and submit for it)
2. More professional development/conferences/workshops this summer (which will definitely include another NYS Geology workshop…this year's is in the Finger Lakes)
3. Enjoy life to the fullest, and find a way to separate the little things that shouldn't matter from the big things that always will matter.
TWO major changes in life
Has anything this year changed your life? To better? To worse? What has made you restructure your life? What made you improve? What opened your eyes?
1. I found out that I definitely need to exercise every day, because even one day of being lazy will cause me to barely be able to move thanks to my knees. Just those 15 minutes every morning of knee exercises before getting ready make a huge difference, and I need to do them.
2. I've come to the conclusion that I am the one. Seriously…I've been in a couple short lived relationships this year, and they all fizzled. But I'm the one who has to deal with myself 24/7, and so long as I love myself, I'm happy and content.
ONE resolution for this coming year
This is your resolution. The most important thing you need to do.
2014 is going to be happier and healthier than the rest. That is all.
TEN of this year’s movies you liked
These can be movies that weren’t necessarily released this year, but movies that you discovered and saw for the first time this year and fell in love with.
1. Silver Linings Playbook
2. American Hustle
3. Hunger Games: Catching Fire
4. Thor (more so the second one than the first though)
5. The Hangover Part 3 (yeah, not that great, but good to see the whole series go full circle and what not)
6. Pitch Perfect
7. The Help (the movie was so much better than the book in this case)
8. Psycho (yup, finally saw the original…holy crap!)
9. The Fighter (finally saw this one too three years after it came out, and the more I think about it, the more it grows on me)
10. The Avengers
NINE things you are thankful for this year
Things, people, places, anything that you’re thankful for, list them. And if you want to say why, go right ahead.
1. My mom: She's become so much more than just a mother to me as I've gotten older. We've always had that good bond where we're friends as well as mother-daughter, but when something goes wrong, she's the one that I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I can go to for help, reassurance, or just a hug.
2. My Friends: They may come and go, they may drop out for a bit and then return, or they may be there every single day, but the true ones are great and I couldn't ask for a better bunch of them.
3. My Dog: Yes, he's my best friend. Taurus cracks me up every day, he's a great listener, and he's the best snuggling buddy a girl could ask for.
4. My Grandma: She drives me crazy sometimes, but she's more like a sister to me than an actual grandma. (This includes all of the sister fighting that occurs with siblings over stupid stuff too.)
5. My Books: They are like a second home to me. (Well, 2nd all the way through 2000th home if you really want to get technical since they all take you to different places.)
6. My Career: Teaching is not only what I do, but it's who I am. I'm thankful that I was able to find a job again this school year (though it will be done at the end of January sadly) so that I could continue to do what I love.
7. My Job: Starting to work at UNYTS in February was a blessing, not only because it gives me time to read (yay!) but it also makes me feel good that it's such a wonderful organization to work for that is making such a difference (Donate Life!)
8. My Fitness Pal: I've made some amazing friends on there (Agent 13!) who are there to call me out when I eat what I shouldn't or if I say that I'm going to go to the gym and don't. This past year, I balanced out at having lost 12 pounds, which isn't a lot, but that's a pound a month, and it's better than having gone up that much. MFP has helped immensely with that!
9. Gluten Free Products: There are many, and it would be silly to thank them all, but I'm thankful for all of them. It makes living this way much more tolerable.
EIGHT things you learned this year
Can be anything from a simple, interesting fact to a gigantic life lesson.
1. Rudolph's red nose is caused by a parasite. (Yes, I'm the queen of useless science facts!)
2. We may be living inside of a black hole and not even realize it. Like what if the whole universe was inside of a black hole, and another universe was studying that black hole trying to find out what it was and everything. (Thank you Penn State!)
3. I can hike. I may hurt myself and end up with bruises and bone contusions that you can still see on my legs, but dammit, I can hike!
4. Barnes and Noble is my personal heaven.
5. I finally gave in to Twitter and hate it. Then I started up a Tumblr and am hopelessly addicted.
6. I am really good at cooking when I put my mind to it. Give me a recipe once, and I'll make it my own, and it will be delicious!
7. There's always a silver lining. You might not know what it is right away, but just wait for the clouds to clear and you'll see it.
8. Being honest with yourself is even more important than being honest to those around you.
SEVEN best memories/moments
Things that, no matter whenever they happened this year, you could never forget. Not this year. Not ever. These are the moments that mattered.
1. Penn State Black Hole Conference
2. Fossil Giveaway in Ithaca at the Paleontological Institute
3. Hunger Games Day at Science Camp (nothing could have gone better that day, it was a dream!)
4. The phone call from the principal at a school that I interviewed at this summer. I didn't get the job, but her phone call made that okay and was the push I needed to stick with this.
5. Being called "Elmo" by one of my students…because "everyone likes Elmo, and everyone likes you too."
6. Hiking along a stream/creek outside of Albany carrying a giant boulder that had a ton of garnets in it (so that I could give it to my mom since garnet is her birthstone and I was so proud that I found it) and just appreciating how beautiful and peaceful it was and that I was able to do it, especially after how "wonderful" my knee was at the start of the year.
7. Gluten Free Expo in Toronto with Mom
SIX accomplishments
Everyone has at least six accomplishments. They don’t have to be big accomplishments. Just what you think are accomplishments, don’t be shy about it.
1. I lost 12 pounds.
2. I got my knee back in working order.
3. I got accepted to participate in a Penn State Astrophysics Conference/Workshop, which about 200 people apply for each year, and only 20 are accepted.
4. All of my ESL students passed their Regents Biology exam that I prepped with for months.
5. I survived another summer of science camp, while interviewing for what seemed like a million teaching jobs, taking two geology courses (4.0 GPA still!), and working at UNYTS part time.
6. I am getting better, and that’s probably my biggest accomplishment this year.
FIVE things you regret
Everyone has regrets. Here’s your chance to admit to them and hopefully vow not to repeat them in the next year.
1. Allowing myself to be fooled by some people, including myself.
2. Not telling people what’s on my mind when I needed to.
3. Slacking off with taking the Earth Science CST, so now it will be a bit harder.
4. Thoughts of giving up and feeling trapped. While I don't really regret them, because they would have happened anyway, I regret letting them take over my life for so long.
5. Not following my budget as well as I should have the past couple months, so now I'm starting to go into panic mode.
FOUR favorites this year
Pick any four favorites you want. Food you discovered. Book you read. Movie you watched. TV show you started watching. Video game you played. Class you took. Vacation you went on. Song you heard. Highlighter brand. Anything you feel like should be a favorite, include it.
1. Movie: Silver Linings Playbook
2. Book: Forgive Me, Leonard Peacock
3. Book Series: The Mortal Instruments
4. Food I Discovered: Bone Marrow outside of Albany…OMG absolutely amazing, so much so that it should be a sin!
THREE plans for next year
Everyone’s got plans for the next year. These three should be your most important plans…the ones that mean the most to you.
1. Finish up my Earth Science teaching certification and get my professional teaching certification finished up (everything is done for it, I just need to get everything in order and submit for it)
2. More professional development/conferences/workshops this summer (which will definitely include another NYS Geology workshop…this year's is in the Finger Lakes)
3. Enjoy life to the fullest, and find a way to separate the little things that shouldn't matter from the big things that always will matter.
TWO major changes in life
Has anything this year changed your life? To better? To worse? What has made you restructure your life? What made you improve? What opened your eyes?
1. I found out that I definitely need to exercise every day, because even one day of being lazy will cause me to barely be able to move thanks to my knees. Just those 15 minutes every morning of knee exercises before getting ready make a huge difference, and I need to do them.
2. I've come to the conclusion that I am the one. Seriously…I've been in a couple short lived relationships this year, and they all fizzled. But I'm the one who has to deal with myself 24/7, and so long as I love myself, I'm happy and content.
ONE resolution for this coming year
This is your resolution. The most important thing you need to do.
2014 is going to be happier and healthier than the rest. That is all.
Most importantly, I know not many people read this, but I would like to wish you all a very happy new year. Cheers to 2014 being amazing and better than the past!
06 October 2012
I'm Done!
Okay...I really don't understand something about guys. This is not the first time this has happened. The first time, I could take it as a fluke. This isn't even the second time. This is the third time now...all from online dating sites.
Height is something that is easy to tell right away. You can tell whether someone is shorter or taller than you. You might not be able to tell the difference between 6'5" and 6'4", but you know that they're taller than you then.
So why must guys lie about their height online? You don't say to a girl who is 5'10" that you're 5'11" many times, then set up a date, meet her, and turn out to be 5'8" on a good day. Especially when that girl told you multiple times that her one physical requirement for a guy be that he's taller than her. Is this similar to girls lying about their weight?
Do I ask for too much? Am I being too picky? Really...good hygiene and taller than me...that's all I need to see. Obviously the personality matters most, but those two requirements in the looks department are reasonable I think. Aren't they? And obviously, if you lie about your height which is something I can tell really fast, what personality do you have? What else have you lied about to me in our getting to know you before deciding on meeting up for a date?
And it makes me wonder where things are going if people are so quick and find it so easy to lie about blatant and obvious things. How can you say that you're looking for a long term relationship when you're going to lie to the girl you think might potentially participate in said relationship with you? Honesty is a big deal...and I'm just not finding it.
I'm done with online dating sites. Plenty of Fish, Match, whatever...it's too easy to lie, bend the truth, whatever you want to call it. I would rather be single than settle. After all, I've waited this long...what's a little longer if needed?
(All said and done, it was a bad blind date tonight. There was much more wrong than just the lying about the height thing. This peppy, bubbly, bouncy, smiley girl can not go on with someone who has no true beliefs system other than being an atheist, never went to a school dance or event, and reads an average of two books a year only filling the rest of his time with video games. No offense to those out there like that...but it's just not what I'm looking for.)
Height is something that is easy to tell right away. You can tell whether someone is shorter or taller than you. You might not be able to tell the difference between 6'5" and 6'4", but you know that they're taller than you then.
So why must guys lie about their height online? You don't say to a girl who is 5'10" that you're 5'11" many times, then set up a date, meet her, and turn out to be 5'8" on a good day. Especially when that girl told you multiple times that her one physical requirement for a guy be that he's taller than her. Is this similar to girls lying about their weight?
Do I ask for too much? Am I being too picky? Really...good hygiene and taller than me...that's all I need to see. Obviously the personality matters most, but those two requirements in the looks department are reasonable I think. Aren't they? And obviously, if you lie about your height which is something I can tell really fast, what personality do you have? What else have you lied about to me in our getting to know you before deciding on meeting up for a date?
And it makes me wonder where things are going if people are so quick and find it so easy to lie about blatant and obvious things. How can you say that you're looking for a long term relationship when you're going to lie to the girl you think might potentially participate in said relationship with you? Honesty is a big deal...and I'm just not finding it.
I'm done with online dating sites. Plenty of Fish, Match, whatever...it's too easy to lie, bend the truth, whatever you want to call it. I would rather be single than settle. After all, I've waited this long...what's a little longer if needed?
(All said and done, it was a bad blind date tonight. There was much more wrong than just the lying about the height thing. This peppy, bubbly, bouncy, smiley girl can not go on with someone who has no true beliefs system other than being an atheist, never went to a school dance or event, and reads an average of two books a year only filling the rest of his time with video games. No offense to those out there like that...but it's just not what I'm looking for.)
29 December 2011
online dating HELL!
So online dating...wow do I have some stories...
I think the best one will always be "french fry guy." Date #1 went fabulous...best one ever. I actually came home and told my mom that this guy could be the right one. Date #2 went just as well. Date #3...well...wow. He went to the wrong location for the restaurant, called me and of course it was my fault, because I told him the wrong place in a text message. (Checked my text history, and low-and-behold, I told him the place that I was standing in.) So he arrived 50 minutes late, we got seated in between two starting-off families (AKA kids under the age of three.) The one kid was screaming bloody murder the whole time, leading "french fry guy" to roll his eyes and proclaim "I love kids." The other kid decided that it would be a fabulous idea to throw a temper tantrum in the middle of dinner, which led to "french fry guy" getting his name. Yup, a ketchup-laden french fry flew through the air an landed on his expensive Express shirt. Now, I like to think that a normal person would shrug it off, do their best to get the ketchup off their shirt, and move on with life. Well, this guy wouldn't shut up about it, complained like all hell, and got mad at the poor kid's parents who were apologizing profusely and giving him baby wipes to try to clean it up. That was the focus for the rest of dinner. Needless to say, he got a text afterwards saying that things just weren't going to work out.
There's also "tall guy," where everything seemed to be perfect via our emails (gotta love the false sense of "wow, we're great for each other" that provides.) He arrived at our lunch date not appearing as tall as he claimed (6'5" does not mean 5'5"...especially when I'm 5'10" in flats!) Our conversation immediately turned to religion once we were seated. He's a hardcore Catholic, I'm Lutheran, apparently the first "heathens" to break away from the Catholic church (well, we were the first ones, but I'm not sure the use of the word "heathen" is fully appropriate.) Of course, that ended the conversation for the rest of the meal, leading to incredibly awkward silence. His credit card wouldn't go through to pay for the meal, so he tried paying with a $100 bill (wtf?) and the waitress couldn't take anything larger than a $50, so I had to pay for the first and last date. When we got outside, he gave me a hug outside of my car and told me "good luck in all of your future travels." Riiiiiight...this guy started my whole thing of "if it's a first date and it's a blind one, coffee works best." Well it does...you can drink fast and go if he's not up to par early on, or you can stay as long as you want and get refills if he's great.
There was also "guy who told me from the beginning that he was 6'2" and then the night before our first date tells me that he's really 5'6" and "guy who stopped talking to me after I asked 'can you stop giving me the Care Bear stare?'"
The recent favorite is "can't drive guy." Photo was blurry on the dating site and on Facebook...it actually made him look relatively decent looking. I should have known from the start though that it wasn't going to be good though when, because I didn't respond within a couple hours to a FB message asking about which day worked better for our first date, he got a bit upset. Why is it so hard to accept that a girl doesn't want to give her cell phone number out before date #2? Why not let sitting ducks lie? We met at Tim Hortons for coffee, and as soon as I saw him, I knew that it would be a 20 minute deal. Hideous! (And please don't think that I'm objectifying or anything like that. The guy needs to be decent looking, and at least taller than me by an inch. But this guy had the worst teeth I've ever seen, a nose that was too small for his face, acne scars everywhere, and his nails didn't look like they had been trimmed or cleaned in weeks.) We ordered our coffee, and yet again, his card didn't work (for $5...what is the deal with this?!) I ended up paying for my small coffee and his extra-large iced cappuccino. Sat down, and he proceeded to talk for two hours about how beautiful and cute I am (what do you say other than "thank you" a million times, especially if you don't agree one bit with it being likewise?), "Family Guy" (ugh!), random movie quotes that I had never heard (OMG, he's like one of my 15:1 students!), how desperate he is for a girlfriend because his family and friends all make fun of him for not having one all the time (doesn't mine? no!), and how the Bible goes against homosexuals. I didn't manage to get a word in edge-wise, and I felt absolutely awful for the old people sitting near us. I couldn't escape, because I couldn't even get in a word to say "thanks, I had a nice time, but I have a family emergency that's going to keep me from ever seeing you again if I have a choice." Finally, my trusty stomach rebelled, and I had to get up to go to the bathroom (damn taking off my coat earlier, or I would have snuck out then.) Came back out, and proclaimed that I needed to leave. He went and got a dozen donuts for himself (magically then he had money?) and shouted "hey Maureen, do you want any?" across the store. Umm...my name is Marie, not Maureen, not Mary, not Maria...Marie. Best part, it was doing this crazy snow-rain mix outside, and he told me that he can't drive and would need to walk unless I can give him a ride, just five minutes. I agreed (begrudgingly...I'm such an idiot.) He told me one way, so I went that way, and it was the wrong way. And the entire time, he kept pushing me for 1. my phone number and 2. whether or not there would be a second date. When I wouldn't answer him, he called his grandmother because he was going to be locked out of the house. We get to his house and have to wait for his grandmother, who finally arrives five minutes later, comes up to the car and wants to talk to me, telling me that she hopes she gets to see lots more of me. She at least was very sweet, but then he leaned in for a kiss, and I did the head bob away. I get home, check FB, and his status is how he met a beautiful girl who could be the love of his life for coffee, and there's a message waiting for me asking for my phone number and whether there will be another date on Friday...again! I responded as nicely as I could, that he was a nice guy, but I don't see there being anything there. He asked why not, and I felt like I owed it to him to at least give one reason...he's too pushy and desperate for a girlfriend. Within five minutes, I got another message saying to give him another chance...pushy much?!
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So here's my verdict...online dating SUCKS! I'm through with it. Nice idea in theory, and I'm sure it works for some random people out there, but after about five bad dates from it, yeah, I'm done. I might seem cheap, but I don't think that paying $120 for 6 months should be necessary to look at profiles and try to find "the one." I pay that much for a month's worth of personal training at the gym, but I actually am seeing results for paying that money! Thinking that I just need to trust that when the right guy comes along, he will come along, and trying to push it via internet dating isn't the right way. In the meantime, I'm perfectly fine with just being a "table for one."
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